5 positive changes I've made this year

5 Positive Changes I’ve Made This Year

It’s always good to get reflective this time of year, on what good decisions I made and what I could have done better. I was inspired to write this post after reading a similar post from A Private Life of a Girl. I’ve found this exercise to be incredibly helpful and powerful in being grateful for what I’ve experienced so far in 2017. So here are my 5 positive changes I’ve made this year, and maybe you might like to get reflective and contemplate on your own?

5 Positive Changes I’ve Made in 2017

5 positive changes I made in 2017

1. Placing Phoebe into Daycare

Putting Phoebe into Daycare for one day a week has made the biggest positive change to our lives. Granted, Tuesday mornings are busy because there are three drop offs (and three pick ups!). Yet, it has given me 5 hours of uninterrupted work time a week. And Phoebe loves her special day at Daycare. She can’t wait to go, which makes it easier to drop her off. Those 5 child-free hours fly when I’m sitting at my computer though, but it has helped ensure I’m not up late at night or up really early in the morning to get work done. Next year, I’m hoping to have two kid free days to free up my evenings and weekends in front of the computer.

Phoebe and maggie wearing sunnies

2. Saying Yes to Different Opportunities

This year, I’ve had some amazing opportunities come my way and I wouldn’t have had them, if I didn’t say yes. There have been times where I’ve said yes and wondered if I can do what I’ve been given the responsibility to do. But I’ve surprised myself in doing the work and enjoying it. Receiving good feedback on what I’ve done has helped boost my confidence too. Doing new things has motivated me to learn more. These opportunities have also given me great experience, which I’ve been able to invest into my own blogs and social media pages.

Saying yes to volunteer roles like being the Workplace Health and Safety Officer at Maggie’s Kindy has also been good for me. While it’s made my year incredibly busy, it’s a wonderful feeling of knowing I’m doing a job that can help others.

3. Saying No To Attending Events

I love attending public events and even being at the forefront of public events, but this year I pulled back to allow time for the things I’ve said yes to. For example, being the WHS officer at Kindy means one night out a month for the committee meetings. I can’t do too many late nights in a row, so it has meant I’ve had to say no to attending various events.

Saying yes to developing friendships and dating my husband or making memories with my children has meant I’ve said no to networking opportunities. I came to the conclusion that these will always be available year in and year out, but when you find true friends, or you realise how great it is to date your husband again (now we’re out of the baby years) or how fast your kids grow up, you do what needs to be done to nourish those relationships to ensure they flourish. So I have said no to a lot of the trade breakfast events, plumbing networking events and some blogging events because I just can’t do everything.

gotta nourish to flourish

4. Letting go of past hurts

This has been a really tough one for me to do. And I don’t find it easy to do. But I remind myself how imperfect I am and how I’d want someone to respond to me after I’ve hurt them. This way of thinking has helped me get over myself and forgive.

This year I’ve had personal upsets that brought out my ugly side. But facing them and letting go of the hurt and injustice has been tremendously freeing. It’s still something I will always need to work on, but I’m glad I cried the ugly tears and had a few deep conversations with my parents and friends who have understood the history of the situations and have just supported me 100%. It’s good to have family and friends who know the truth of the matters you’re dealing with and are there to understand what you’ve been through, but then kick you in the butt to get back up again.

This speaks true to me. Walking away is hard to do, but you have to do it! Peace out! #innerpeace #chooseyourbattles

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5. Investing time into friends

I think I did better at this this year than previous years. Spending time with friends from Esther’s school, church and my gorgeous blogging friends has been good for my soul – and hopefully theirs. When you find ‘your kind of people’, you want to invest in the friendships.

The bodyguard friends

Over the course of this year, there have been some good times like going to a paint and sip class, celebrating our children’s birthdays, celebrating each other’s birthdays and heading out to the theatre and there are still more events to enjoy until the end of the year. I’m so glad I said yes to spending time with these wonderful people. Its my goal to keep that going into 2018.

This year has certainly been a mixed bag of highs and lows and with many ordinary days in between. But it’s been a good year and I’m happy and content with the outcomes of these decisions throughout the year.

What positive changes did you make this year that have helped you?

  • LydiaCLee

    What a good post. Interestingly that you’ve had the insight to make the necessary changes for peace and happiness.

    • I never even correlated that Lydia. But yes, those decisions have been made to allow for peace and happiness in my life and my family’s.

      • LydiaCLee

        Ha Ha! I thought that was the point of the post!

        • LOL. Yes you’re right. I read it differently though I didn’t know if we would be happier with the outcome of the decisions, but I knew something had to change to get to that point of having that peace. And that’s good for me to realise that changes are good. Even when I don’t like them. 🙂

  • Good on you, Bec. It’s great to prioritise things and give yourself what you need.

  • The older I’ve become the better I’ve also become at making positive changes like yours and realising I can’t do everything and that I need to prioritise where I spend my time, effort and love.

    Ingrid
    http://www.fabulousandfunlife.blogspot.com.au

    • We only learn this as we get older and I think when our lives become fuller with family’s needs. x

  • I’m all for saying no so I can say yes to the things that matter. And I’m with you, relationships need your time and attention if they’re to blossom and grow. I’ve been listening to The Minimalists this year and they talk about this a lot – I see it as each of our life values having a “cup” and it’s all about keeping them full, or at least balanced. I think these positive changes are helping you do exactly that!

    • Love your view Sammie. I definitely have tried to say yes to what matters and no to what can wait or be done in the future. 🙂

  • Good job! Saying no is a big one. Wearing goggles while cutting up onions is also a big one! LOL.

    • HAHA! Those goggles saved my eyes! The photo was too funny not to share. x

  • Honestly, I haven’t felt in the most positive place for the last week (it’ll pass, just a small but annoyingly persistent issue) so it’s hard to think back on the year… I guess for me it has been allowing people to leave my life when it has become toxic. And that might very well be where I’m back at again now!

    • It can be so frustrating deal with a persistent issue. I hope it can be reconciled/fixed Ness. Maybe when the year draws to a close, you might have the headspace to reflect. xx

  • How refreshing and honest this post is. Good for you Bec. I particularly liked the “yes” and the “no” ones. Applauding your decisions to make changes that work for us. Go girl! Denyse x

    • Thank you Denyse. Your comment had me smiling ear to ear. I’d love to read a similar post from yourself after what you’ve been through this year. Loved your recent post on Facebook about eating a roast. I hoped it tasted as delicious as it looked. xx

      • Oh it so did! There will definitely be a repeat of that meal. Thanks for the “food for thought” about a post! D xx

  • What a wonderful year of growth you’ve had, Bec. I love that you’re learning to say yes and no all in the right places. Thank you for your friendship this year and for helping me to grow as a person too x

    • Love having you in my life. We were a friendship meant to be. 🙂 xx

  • I love the quote about clicking cancel instead of send, that’s something I’m trying to do more of! It sounds like you’ve made some great decisions this year. #teamIBOT

    • It’s a good quote to remember Claire. Especially in the heat of the moment. Thank you for your kind comment. This year has been a big year for yourself too. x