rather be busy than bored

I’d Much Rather be Busy Than Bored

After a few big weekends of parties and going out with friends, Jacob and I decided to have a slower Sunday (with a much needed sleep in) and head to church on Sunday night. After spending two nights watching the last few episodes of Season Two of Outlander (OMG how GOOD was the last episode on Season 2?!) We needed a slower morning to recharge.

Our Sunday night service included an interview with an interior designer which inspired me greatly. I had the pleasure of meeting this lovely lady in Sydney at Colour Conference earlier this year.

I don’t know about you, but I get inspired by successful business owners who are mums. Being a mum myself, I understand the time and dedication needed to juggle the role of being a mother and a business owner. Family should come first, but often, a business will demand time and energy that can see a family being placed down the priority list. Yet, this business woman and her partner (her sister) made a pact that they would put their children first, no matter what. I loved that! (If you want to follow this interior designer, check out @porchlightgirl and @porchlight_interiors)

What was really attractive about this mother’s testimony was she was never afraid to pursue her passions, even as a mother. I think as mothers, we can feel guilty about pursing our passions or our careers. And yet, I think showing our children we have an alternate life from looking after them is important. And for stay-at-home mums, it’s not about pursuing work outside the home. It could be a hobby or writing a blog or volunteering at school or even studying. You should have something for you that stirs your heart and renews your energy.

Our pastor then shared a message about busyness and what society sees it as. I had heard the message before, but it was one I needed to hear again because lately I have felt life has been demanding a lot from me lately and this year I have felt really stretched.

But I’d much rather be busy than bored.

Being bored and having nothing to do and no one to care for sounds… well boring.

I’m blessed to have a husband to love, children to love and raise up, parents and grandparents alive to converse with, a house to maintain and clean, a job where no day is ever the same because I write so many varied stories. I’m part of a dynamic church where I volunteer my time to ensure new attenders don’t feel one of the crowd, and I enjoy being part of the committee at Maggie’s Kindy where I’m the Workplace Health and Safety Officer. It’s been hectic this year. Yet what a blessing it has been to have these amazing things in my life to be a part of.

blessed family grandma

I do think it’s important to have a margin or white space in one’s life. Overdoing it can be very easy and it can lead to a breakdown, which is not healthy. It’s actually biblical to rest. But often we do put a negative spin on being busy. But if we had the opposite – with no one to care for, no work to get on top of, nothing to get involved in and no passions to pursue, life would be a massive white space of BOREDOMVILLE.

pa and grandchildren

Checking out Pa’s planes at the Stafford Model Train Show

Are you ever thankful for the events you or your children get invited to? Sometimes I think they can be a pain in the butt, yet, what a blessing it is to have friends and family that value our presence in their lives.

If you run a business and you feel like you’re constantly chasing your tail, what if you had the opposite where you were chasing business instead?

I can’t actually claim this new way of thinking about busyness as my own as it’s something my pastor shared on Sunday night.

But I thought I’d share it with you because I’ve seen plenty of posts saying busyness is wrong, or we’re all too busy and we need to ‘stop glorifying busyness’. I do think if you are overloading your schedule with events, you may need to say no to some things so you can say yes to others and ensure you have that necessary white space.

But our busyness can actually be an indicator of a blessed life.

rather be busy than bored

A full life is not something to be ashamed of or feel guilty about. It’s something to be thankful for.

What do you think about this new way of looking at busyness? Do you agree with it? How has the first half of the year treated you?

  • I don’t think one is better than the other, I think it matters what fulfills you. For some that might be less, for others it might be more. We all need different levels of space around us to function well. My only problem with busy is when it becomes the only thing we talk about, when it’s negative, and when it’s a competition.

    • Yes, the competitive part of busyness shouldn’t be used as a tool to say I’m more blessed than you. That’s not it. How wonderful that we can ‘busy’ ourselves with things we enjoy and love. And if white space is what we love most, then how awesome that we can have that too.

  • I love this perspective. With six kids I am always busy and we turn down plenty of things to try to keep some balance. I agree with you that this busyness is a blessing. I remind myself of this each day too.

    • Yes we turn a lot down to so aren’t ‘over-busy’. It’s important when you have a family to be selective of what you get involved in, but no matter how many decisions are made, life with kids is generally busy. You can’t get away from it, unless you decide to not engage in your kids lives. And I know you’re definitely not that type of mum. Hope you’re getting stronger each day Jody. xx

  • I’d rather be busy than bored too but I do need to get better at scheduling in white space and being more realistic about what I can achieve in a defined period of time!

    Ingrid
    http://www.fabulousandfunlife.blogspot.com.au

    • Yes to white space. It is essential, I agree. But sometimes when I know I’m busy and feel negative about it, I need to jolt myself with some positivity and a change of perspective. x

  • I’m about to start 6 weeks of full time teaching, so I know I’m going to be very busy! I am a little nervous, but mostly excited to be working with a great class

    • Tracy

      Hi Bella – you will be crazy busy in all the best possible kinds of ways. I loved all of my professional experiences, and I love having a class of my own (I’m a fairly recent graduate). I hope your 6 weeks is full of wonderful opportunities to learn all kinds of really important things.

      • Love your response Tracy. Thank you for sharing this. x

    • I hope it’s going well for you Bella. xx

  • Tracy

    I have a very, very different perspective on busyness, compared to lots of people. I get a bit crabby about the whole work/life balance song and “me time” and all those kinds of trendy little cliches. For me, the truest and best example comes from Jesus. He poured himself out totally and completely in the task he was sent to do. And then he would deliberate about taking time to rest and refresh himself. I follow the same pattern through the week and also through the term. Work hard, then rest. Work hard, the rest. I am exhausted at the end of the day, but it’s the good kind of wholesome tired.

    • Tracy I love your comment so much. I agree wholeheartedly with it. I try to follow the same pattern too… but sometimes I can succumb to negativity if I get tired or just want a break. x

  • A thoughtful and helpful post Bec. I know that there needs to be a balance as best as we can arrange it in our lives. I have been transitioning to a retirement lifestyle for past 3 years and it has take me quite a while to know that my time is mostly mine to choose how I spend it. I used to be over-busy with little time for me and that made me a cranky-pants…but then too much of ‘nothing’ can do the same. I hope more people can achieve what you seem to have found successful for you. Denyse #teamIBOT

    • I totally get it Denyse. And there are times I have felt we’ve been too busy and there has been not time for me to do stuff I’d like to do. But it comes down to scheduling, for me, and saying no to some things so I can say yes to others. Thank you for sharing your perspective on busyness too. x

  • Inspiration is great, seeing someone pursuing what lights them up is always encouraging.

    Then the old busy / blessed / carer / full life card comes up. Hmm I readily confess it always gives me pause. They all sound like lovely things, if that’s your jam. It’s not mine.

    No-one to care for and nothing to do.

    No-one to care for and nothing to do.

    Must be important, as it was repeated.

    There are actually more than these two ends of the spectrum.

    Busy or bored. I am neither.

    By these definitions though, as a single, childless woman (my choices), I have no-one to care for and the impression this leaves me with, which I’m sure isn’t intentional, is that this is a bit of a pity, that I’m not as “womanly” as I could be, because I have no-one to care for and therefore nothing to do. I must be bored because I’m not busy caring for others. Not the case. Not at all.

    I actually have someone incredibly important to primarily care for – myself. I have given a lot of my energy and tears and love and time to that care over the years. It doesn’t keep me ‘busy’, it keeps me growing and healing and happy.
    And from that, I can live in a way that offers good stuff to others.

    I am not busy but I consider myself incredibly fortunate to live the life I choose to.

    Just another perspective to consider.

    • I think that’s a great perspective Annette. And thank you for sharing it. And you’re right, I wasn’t intentional about saying ‘if you don’t have a partner and don’t have kids, this means you’re not busy and you’re not blessed.’ Not at all the message I was trying to convey. And certainly not my heart. I have wonderful friends who have no children or aren’t partnered but they have extremely busy and full lives.

      Whatever makes you busy should be seen as a blessing because you are able to do exactly what has made you busy. So if that’s caring for yourself, pursuing your blog, pursuing a hobby these things are GOOD.

      Let’s take an example – blogging. You can become incredibly busy blogging, as you know. But just because you have a blog and someone else doesn’t have a blog means they aren’t blessed. It’s seeing the value in what we have chosen to do with our lives, and if they keep us busy, what a wonderful life we have.

      I enjoy your comments and perspective Annette. 🙂