Spectrums of a rainbow


For 8 years I was in a musical theatre group. I loved it. It was run as part of a church I used to attend. I really enjoyed anything to do with musical theatre. I still do.

But I had some embarrassing moments while I was in that musical group. And those embarrassing moments funnily enough didn’t happen on stage.

One embarrassing moment I remember was when I was around 18 and I had just seen Joseph and the Amazing Technicolour Drea coat. It was a great production run by a different theatre group.

My favourite part of going to a show is reading the program to see who plays the main characters and to see where they have performed before. The actor playing Joseph was pretty good looking. I was going out with Jacob at the time, so I wasn’t on the hunt for a new man, but I had friends who I wanted to see hooked up and happy as I was with Jacob. So I helped being on the lookout. For them.

Some members of the musical group at my church were part of that Joseph production. I remember on a music camp while eating dinner, telling them how wonderful the production was. And then I said ‘Joseph was a good looking bloke wasn’t he?’ to which I was told he was gay. And my reply was “oh what a shame,” to which I was rebuked ‘Why is it a shame Bec?’ and I was talked down in front of other members of the group about my limited view on gay people. I feebly said ‘that’s not what I meant…’ but it wasn’t well regarded. Thankfully the topic of conversation changed and I stayed a deep shade of red. Mortified by being talked down in front of other group members. Worried that that I had offended members in my musical group, and confused about why what I said was wrong?

After reflection, they misunderstood what I meant when I said ‘what a shame’. It was a shame that he was gay because he was off the market for girls to pursue. Surely I’m not the only one that has said this before about a good looking bloke and then found out he was gay? It was not an ‘oh what a shame he’s gay’ remark. And I think they took my comment that way.

How easy it is to misunderstand someone. And easier still to rebuke someone when you really don’t understand what they are saying. Or mistake their comment for hate.

I believe you show your real colours in the face of opposition.


There is differing debate on social media about equality and #loveislove. And then I read about Christians saying they love the sinner but hate the sin. And they get attacked again because it’s so hypocritical. But let me leave you with this, if your child did something you disagreed with… like murder, would you still love them? The same question can be asked of a Christian who will love their friends who are homosexual, but disagree with the lifestyle they have chosen.

The issue for me is beyond homosexual marriage. I have no doubt it will come to pass. Whether with this government or the next. Doesn’t mean I don’t agree with it. I don’t agree with abortion either but that is legal and I would never tell someone I hated them because they have had one. I am in no position to judge.

The biggest issue for me is the hate with differing opinion. Each has to come to their own conclusion about gay marriage whether it’s legalized or not. And for some it is black and white and for others it will be a rainbow. And still for others it will be grey.

At the heart of it, anyone who is homosexual should be accepted. They should be loved. They shouldn’t be discriminated against. If their partner is in a crisis and the next of kin is to be called, their partner should be there and should have the rights to make decisions on their behalf. From what I understand, in Australia, homosexual couples do have these rights as they are the same with de facto couples. If they don’t then something needs to be done.

When homosexual marriage does come in, there will be defence. There will be uproar and I will listen and move on because my marriage will still be the same. My views will still be the same. I will keep living my life just the same.

In the meantime I thank God for his grace. The reality is the battle for equality was won on the cross when Jesus died on it. Love has already won.

In light of other news, on Sunday night I watched the interview with Belle Gibson. I read the tweets. And my gut reaction was compassion. I may have been the only one to feel this. Anger was a common reaction by those online who had been conned by her lies. But we have to be careful what we do with our anger because the only person it hurts is ourselves. I hope Belle gets the help she needs. I also hope she learns from her wrongs and can be given an opportunity to live a new life. Telling the truth would be a great place to start.

So while the world is going hate crazy, and sharing rainbows or brewing storms, I will continue to feel all the feelings and quietly ponder what is going on around me.

And remember that love has already won.

How have you been feeling these last couple of days? Ever been misunderstood?

I’m linking with Essentially Jess for IBOT.